Men seemingly open to dating “anyone and everyone” eventually include a “no black women” addendum. The online dating world is also stacked against black women and Asian men.
Women who state they only want to find a nice, kind, man say that they have no real physical preferences … According to Christian Rudder’s OKCupid blog, stats from 2014 show that 82 per cent of non-black men on OKCupid show some bias against black women.
“I’m open to dating women of all backgrounds,” he tells me.
“Except for black women.”“I’ve just never been attracted to Asian men,” she says. Unfortunately, the vast majority of singles I’ve worked with have clear racial preferences and biases when it comes to dating.
Black women and Asian men are the two groups most notably at a dating disadvantage.
They are the hardest singles for me to match, because they tend to be excluded from the match searches of the majority of clients.
I didn’t even know if I wanted a husband; I just wanted a boyfriend. Season after season, it has introduced black contestants only to swiftly eliminate them, dispatched before they could be fleshed out as memorable characters, lingering in viewers’ memories only as cartoonish tropes.
The franchise reinforces the patriarchal premise that heterosexual men want to be with women who “need” them, and heterosexual women desire men who can “take care” of them—a dynamic that is complicated by race and class, and has particular implications for women of color who can take care of themselves or don’t have the luxury of waiting to be rescued.
It would be years before I read the statistics claiming black women are undesirable partners for black men, unwilling to consider interracial partnerships, and therefore unlikely to marry.
Now that I’m four years into professional matchmaking, I’ve seen clear patterns emerge when it comes to race and attraction. Women of every racial background seem to strongly prefer dating you.
Asian and Latin women are most popular with the gents.
I was browsing through blog posts and articles recently and I came across a question that said, “Help! It seemed like a really big crisis for that woman, almost comparable to asking a question such as “my daughter is marrying a drug addict, what should I do?
” Reading and re-reading the question out loud in my head, it surprises me how there are still these bigoted stereotypes like that in this day and age.